
I've had a few hellacious weeks at work lately. Between my workload, the general politics of any corporation and the stress it all causes, I feel like I have aged 5 years. My workouts have fallen to the wayside, I've easily gained 5 pounds, my Diet Coke intake is embarassing and, yes, that's an additional 3 gray hairs I just counted. I am in desperate need of a break and yet I see none in sight. The crowning factor? The one weekend I did have to relax was spent nursing a cold I picked up along the way. Settle in for this pity party, it's just getting started.
Okay, not really a pity party. I'll save those for my husband. He's good at listening.
All this stress has led my mind to wander. I'm missing precious time with this face:
Today, Facebook was all abuzz with sentimental memories of those friends who's kids were off to school - many for the first time (sans daycare). I have four years. Four years till she embarks on her scholastic journey and her 8am-3pm days. And I will have to sacrifice her over then. Because, for some reason, we can't keep them under our wing no matter how hard we try.
I think back...
Eight years ago, I graduated from college. I was dead-set on becoming a career woman. Pencil skirts, power, the works. I wanted to work for large corporations. I wanted to climb the ladder. I wanted the money. I wanted to make a difference and be recognized for it.
I was naive.
Four years ago, if you would have asked me if I would ever want to be a Stay-at-home-Mom (SAHM), I would of vehemently declared "NO!" - sitting around watching soaps all day, while the kids do activities never sounded like my cup of tea. Forgive me, SAHM's, how I based my perception of you I will never quite know. But that's what I thought.
I was naive.
Rewind nearly 17 months ago, April 5th, 2010. KT was 9 weeks old. I was dropping her off at daycare for her first day. Ask me then if I wanted to be a SAHM? And I would of have given over
everything for more time with her.
I was no longer naive.
You see, Motherhood has changed
me.
I am ambitious. But no longer in the work place. I strive to be a great mother, a great role model.
I am goal-oriented. But no longer in climbing the corporate ladder of success. But rather making sure my child is succeeding in her day to day. Not in a competitive nature, but in a natural growth.
I love to work. But no longer for someone else. For
myself. For
my family. For
my kids. Being a mother is full time work, even for those of us who don't stay at home with our kids day in day out.
The evolution of the SAHM, has also made me reconsider things. I read blogs and blogs and blogs by
Moms,
successful Moms, mind you, who have raised their children but also been able to
pursue their passions - and bonus... make profits from it. Marketing professionals in my industry have struck out on their own and have, from what I've heard, been relatively successful doing contract work.
But is this for me? I have always known that I am destined to work, in some capacity, for myself. Is working towards becoming a SAHM something I see myself doing?
The pros and cons of Corporate vs SAHM are perpetually being weighed in my mind. And it's hard to figure out what tips the scale, except for this one obvious one, that keeps coming to the surface:
This is my life, my one life. The one chance I have to spend time with my children.
And that one thought makes me wonder. Oh, how it makes me wonder.